Are You Perfect?

Perfect. Thats the first thing every soul want to be. Its a temptation for everyone, everyone wants it, yet none achieved it.

We all were made to dreamt being perfect, we dreamt as if its the biggest thing on earth, we felt that thats the only thing that could keep us moving, thats the only thing that could bring success to us.

But, What is this? Being Perfect? What the hell that is? Is it like being like a Steve Jobs? or Abraham Lincoln? Or Theodore Roosevelt? No, no, if we ask their colleagues or families, each of them got some kinda imperfections in them.

I once heard my friend saying about her life partner, she was saying that he should be cute, intelligent, caring, and perfect for her in every sense. Then i questioned her, What is Perfect for her? she replied “should understand, should make her comfort and blah blah blaaaah”. Nice, i would say. But then, it struck me. There isn’t anything called Perfect, Its like how you see it.

My friend’s way of being perfect was kinda abhorrent for me, i never liked her definition at all.its like one of the usual debate between Ferrari fans and Mclarens, The Ferrari fans might say naturally aspirated engines are better than Turbo charged engines, but then Mclaren fans might object it and go for the turbo charged one, being a neutral and obsessed by all of those wonderful machines, im okay with either of them. So thats how the things are, people define the terms like “success” and “Perfect” according to their will, and they are correct.

So here is what i wanna say if you are searching for a perfect partner:

“None of us are perfect, all have little imperfections in them which i like to call as idiosyncrasies and peccadillos. The moment you start loving your partner’s peccadillos and jells into it and he loves yours is the exact moment that makes you and your partner as the perfect for each other, and when that moment comes to you, grab it with all your heart, coz its not something that happen to every couple”.

But in your case, you really have two choices:

1.Mourn at your imperfections and forget your strengths and then become a complete failure, else
2. you can concentrate on your strengths and utilise it to the maximum so that the world won't even look at your peccadillos just like, they don't in the case of pioneers.

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Bring the change

“Do you know? What everyone is scared of? its simple, The Change."

Isn’t it? just try to introduce something new to the existing world, then kaboom, its a chaos. People can’t even think about getting into it, people may think that it may blast, it may kill them, it may succumb them, they are just scared of the change even without any solid reason.

But, what is this change? it could be anything, it even includes using the holographs to illustrate something there than some old school ppts, or it could be implementing your own style when you are talking to something, so that you won’t get trapped in any kinda dogma.

Then why people are scared? Its very simple, they are scared just because of their unawareness, give a roller skater to a kid, at first he may feel scared, but later on he will adapt to it.

Surely, there will be some kind of blows towards you whenever you are trying to implement some changes, but come on, thats all part of the plan.

All these Blows are advantageous, but you never know until you look back; be patient use all the opportunities, and when some good change comes, Grab it will your heart, so that you will be among those who adapted it first.

I still remember when Steve Jobs introduced iPhone on 2007, the absence of video cam,bluetooth, IR was noticeable. Its not because apple couldn't afford those chips in an iPhone, but its just because they value privacy more than these chips; At that moment people were comparing iPhones with Stones as all of the mobile phones of that era had a beautiful camera and sharing systems. but then, what happened? well you know it right? 

 Don’t set your goals as small, set it big, look ahead of years and decades, don’t settle until you achieve it, and when you achieve it, set another one.

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Social Media, an ally?

The more social media we have, the more we think we're connecting, yet we are really disconnecting from each other.

Last night i was talking about social media and its benefits to a beautiful soul who possess an impeccable knowledge and awareness about the things that going around her.

As we were talking, I, being social media lover, insta-fanboy  and an active twitter tweeter tried to define the merits of social media in my own way and on the other side she, who were once in this thing and finally stepped out of this just because she can’t live in dogma (which, i really appreciates) were explaining things in her way.

The talk was really awesome as she pointed out few things i never ever thought of and finally ignited a spark of dubiosity inside me, which grew and resulted in this post.

“Disclaimer: This is just my own view, and i do respect everyone else’s view about it”

The social media, the one which most of the youth spends 50% of their free time ,is no doubt a threat for those who are addicted to this and uses this without a proper time management.

I once read the quotes of Daniel Radcliffe, the Harry potter’s quote on internet and it was quiet remarkable, and it goes like this 

“ Its an interesting thing; the internet isn’t about having a good time-its about showing people you are having a good time, when you go out to bars and clubs, nobody is actually dancing or enjoying themselves;they are all taking photos of themselves so that they can say “I was there wasn’t it great?”, its crazy. “

Thats true, now the world is all about taking selfies in a most weird way by keeping duck faces and all other insane poses and post it online. Isn’t it insane? 

Fine, you can send photos to those who wants to see you, those who misses you, thats perfectly alright and thats a necessity. But uploading tons of your selfies, that too with duck faces, come on, isn’t it too much?

We lived before facebooking era, that too in an admirable way. so come on folks, this isn’t an important thing, no one gives a damn about your fb profile pic, and believe me, your inamorata/inamorato don’t even care about the pics, they care about you.

"You can kill people using knives, where as you can use the same for chopping vegetables. choose the best."

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Childhood

“I spent my whole childhood wishing for adulthood and now I'm spending my adulthood wishing for my childhood"

Ah the childhood, for some, even the word brings smile, it makes you just lost in your thoughts, but for others its a nightmare. 

We all heard stories about childhood, most of them are with happy ending. We never read or head about anything that don’t end happily. We read about Tom Sawyer, Huckleberry Fin, Harry Potter and all those things which ends in a “good way”. 

We never read about the lives of those legends who lived in poverty and then changed the world in an astonishing manner, the legends like Abraham Lincoln, Napoleon Bonaparte’ and all those legends who changed the world despite of their challenging childhood.

But, we don’t read about it, we don’t want the bitter stories, we want to live in our fantasies and all those funny stuffs in it, right? Ah, What a shame!

The thing about being children is something is divine, something fantastic, its about living innocent and expressing ourselves with cuteness and with immense love.

As far as I’ve heard, the childhood is the mould of any personalities, it’s the one which makes you what you are. When coupled with enthusiasm and reasoning it could provide you to build the foundation that holds an enormous personality. 

Keep the above paragraph in your mind, deal with your kids as if you are dealing with a great guy, so that they will be raised to a great soul. Respect your kids so that they may respect you, show your kindness to them so that they will shower your kindness to you.

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Connecting the Dots

Some times, i often had a  feel that, why this happened to me? why am i in trouble all time? why on earth god is testing me? and i bet, most of you had the same feeling as well.

Be a believer or an atheist, you often had the same feeling that i narrated above. You see, our life is a connection of events, and these event are related to some other events that happened to you already.

The way we see the things might not be the actual way to see it, we may consider it as a bless, but in reality it could be a blow, the same could happen in vice-versa.

When i just got admitted to my college, i thought, not again, why on earth am in such a dump place?, then i realized, being in a already established system is nice, but then you can’t bring much changes to it, but if you try to implement something new, then yes, thats the very best thing.

 The same happened with me in relationships also, sometimes, i used to think, oh my, why these people are in these kinda relationships? why they are putting themselves into it? i didn’t really like the idea of being in a relation, i called it infatuations , and yes, many were the same; but still, i denied the existence of pure affection; now, i just found that am wrong, as i got into one.

Thats how it is, sometimes we can’t connect the dots by looking forwards, but we can connect it once we look backwards, and once again, dots can never be connected when looking forward, it can be connected only if we look backward.

Once, we look into it, once we analyse the present situation, we will find that, there is some special purpose in our birth, definitely, there is no second chance so that we could look back and change it, but then, the one who tries to identify it by looking forward, the one who is talented enough to connect it to the very next node is verily the one, who won this challenge, the challenge of being born.

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Balloons

Sometimes, you dream about the future, you never dreamt of. you starts to dream about it, and suddenly, its gone. Thats how life is.

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These balloons,  they are very much alike us, they just grew bigger and bigger no matter what gets in, let it be air,nitrogen, water, whatever, they don't care what gets in, instead they just grow big.

Same as our dreams, our dreams gets bigger and bigger without being aware of its logic and probability of occurrence, and once it get exceeds or once its illogic has been proven, it just baaaangg !! shatters!

Gone everything! gone every thing you dreamt of. May be you won't feel good after the blow, but all these are part of life. all these are worth in life, it makes you strong, says the high-level thinkers.  But, am sorry, i don't know, The only thing i know is the shattered dreams adds elements to your deja-vu attitude.

Some times, you have to choose between your dreams and god. and surely the latter is more important, nothing worth more than him.

But, yeah, shattered dreams are a feeling :)

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Expect the unexpected!! but be cool.

We, the humans, or shall i say, I,myself, have a problem. We just let our mind to be a wanderer and get worried in those things that it brings to us.

Yes, there is a saying that you should expect the worse, true. But, what i was doing since last few days was just keep on worrying about the things without any solid reason. 

The latter is always a cause of depression, something that could choke you to the death.

You see, there are lots of people, who are around us, some are very much planned, some aren’t, some are tough enough to face the challenges, while some are scared about it. But being planned is really good, and thinking of the counter part will help you to be stern and tackle the hurdles thats on your way.

Thats good, to be prepared to face challenges. But once you are set, and all the precautions are taken, then there comes some factors that keeps every thing out of your hand, everything that could blew all of your plans.

So, after all the preparations you’ve done, you have to keep those things your god’s hand.

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Lets bring Changes

Sometimes there are some moments in which you have to stand up and say “enough with these, let me bring some changes”; and at this moment i have to say the same.

3 years ago, to be precise on 2012 august 17, at 10:30 am, My self, along with my two unmatched souls landed to this place in a white Volkswagen.

We were at the heights of expectations, coz it is close to the hi-fi city in india, and yaaay, we are now literally an engineering students so that we could get lots of workshops and other stuffs and we could do what we love.

Wow, isn’t that amazing? to do what you love? Ever since i’ve heard Steve Job’s speech at stanford, i dreamt about the same. Do what i love; i didn’t chose computer science for better payment, for better lifestyle nor for recognition. I chose it, just because i love this stuff. I love to make people’s life easier.

On 1998, When i was 5 years old, i read an article in which The Microsoft honcho, the most respectable, the most admirable, Bill Gates, once said “I have a dream, the world should be within the human hands, there won’t be any gap between north pole and south pole, no gap between USA and ASIA” when i read that, i found it interesting, but i was dubious about its possibility.

But, Hell, I was wrong, after 10 years, i.e. from 2008, 40% of houses owns an internet enabled computer and VoIP became a usual thing. Skype,FaceTime,Yahoo made revolutionary changes so that those who were 1000 kilometres away from us, visited our houses every day.

As we landed there, suddenly all the excitements were gone, here we are 400+ kms away from our home, in a place which is under-developed than the city we are from, and have an ill in treating outsiders.

So, the first year, went with ragging,banging and sobbing (not literally ;) ). Once we reached second year, we made a decision that we won’t let it be like this. we don’t want this to be a dry place, Let’s spice this up.

We met principal with our set of ideas, and he helped in realising some of them, on the same year, we organised an online event which bagged more than 400 participants without any kind of marketing.

The success of Unzip, the one we hosted last year gave us confidence, it proved that there are lots of souls who wants a change, but they don’t want to initiate it. Sometimes, some needs a push, a little one, and after that they will take over.

We saw the potential in them, we saw changes in them, then we started to hunt those who shared our enthusiasm, and i must say, we are amused to see the enthusiasm in these people. They are talented, capable, and have an urge to embrace the changes.

Now, with these amazing people, we are moving as a team, for the second phase of this 4 tier program. This isn’t about, Me or my team, its about all of us, its about our college, its about our mates, and its about what we love.

Lets chant together “ we bring change”

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Choose What You Love!

Yes, what you read is correct, its Love, but don't let that wakes your prejudices and start flooding my inboxes. Those 4-letter words are the most misinterpreted still beautiful and owns a beautiful meaning than anything else, when coupled with a deep thought.

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Disclaimer: " The below content is purely from my experience and from my Knowledge base; and its scope is limited to the circle of people i know. So, there is a 90% possibility that you may find everything wrong,so don't get panic."

"Know what you love and do what you love"-Stevejobs

Those are the words said by the late, but still remembered Steve Jobs said during an event in stanfod university on the year of 2005. By saying that he doesn't meant, okay now, go find your valentine and live with her. but instead what he meant was find what you love to do (work/activities) and do it.

So, you might be wondering that what made me to write about this. Well, its nothing but a conversation with few of the souls i knew for years.

As i enrolled to the engineering course, i got into the new atmosphere and really felt difficulty to get adjusted with it. During our talks with seniors, I've heard my batchmates saying that they chose mechanical because its provides good opportunity, chose computer science because it pays a lot, chose electrical because parents told us to. But, i never heard an answer like "i chose it, because i love it" .

I don't want you to be rude to your parents or to follow old school, i don't want you to learn about pagers or typewriters in this era of apples and windows. But, what i want from you is listen to your heart before doing anything, just ask yourself, can i enjoy what am doing? or will it be a burden?

Even if you get millions per hour for a job you won't like gonna make you bored of life, its gonna make you sick. I know many people personally who love to write thousand lines of code, that too for free of cost. These people won't do it for money or any other advantages, instead, they do it because it  gives them joy,it makes them proud and it demands the hell out of them.

Doing a job, which you don't like is similar to marrying a women you won't like; and if it pays you heavily, its like marrying a women you won't like by accepting a heavy dowry, and belive me, it can't get you peace.

Your Time Is Limited, Dont Waste Time By Living Someone Else's Life; Don't Get Trapped In Dogma

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The Unexpected Guests

“Most people want to be circled by safety, not by the unexpected. The unexpected can take you out. But the unexpected can also take you over and change your life. Put a heart in your body where a stone used to be.” 

The unexpected!! For many, its a nightmare, for some, its a joy of being adventurous. But, if you ask me, its a nightmare. Yes, i read the well known quote "Always expect the unexpected", but, its still a nightmare. Ask a driver, whats the least thing he want on streets, and he might start with the word "unexpected". Thats how we, humans are. we know how to tackle the obstacles, which is sized as behemoth, and we often driven out just due to an unexpected nail.

Yes, i know that its been a while since i wrote something to this blog, i always wanted to, but i was facing scarcity of topics, and then i deviated myself to open web and its volunteering, which is still a subject-under-developing, and other productive stuffs.

As productive works increased and my time to hit my classes has arrived, half heartedly i packed my bags boarded the bus and reached the college, which i address as a mood-killer. As the nickname says, it have an amazing skill to wipe of all your productive thoughts and make you dizzy, may be thats the charm of students there, or may be the authorities holds the credit, who knows?

While talking about the college, and its nickname that i awarded, i have to mention that, we don't want the college to be decorated with this nickname for long, we, few souls interested in making changes are playing in background, tweaking CSS and some scripts to get this thing blow the dizziness and embrace the mask of freshness.

During those days, i met a new soul, a soul, that is interested in studying, analysing,imagination and thinking again and again about the same thing to get a different opinion about it, and that wasn't unexpected, as it possessed an INTJ personality (which i came to know later).

I ve met lots of wise women and men before, but never a soul like this. This is so charming, so confident about the words uttered from vocal chord and very much attractive in personality. Its like, it have a way in dealing with people. 

Thats a bless, isn't it? creating a way of your own, when dealing with people, creating a definite habit, being loveable, joyful and in the meantime maintaining a never subsided thirst to acquire knowledge.

While talking to people like this, i often think, why can't the people in world can't be like this? why can't they read classics rather than the rumours? why can't they think about leaving their footmarks rather than being a clown in the parade? why can't they be a do-gooders rather being a douche to themselves and others? i don't know, may be am the paranoid nincompoop. 

-The REZ

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The World - A University

You may be start reading with a pointed eye brow, but yes, this world, which you are living in is the biggest university in the whole planet.

It could teach you many things which a 5Star university can't. You can enroll to Harvard,Stanford,Oxford or MIT and learn those uber cool subjects whose name makes the people faint. But, that doesn't meant that you are the top of the world.

If you have a uber degree with fancy name,wow then you are successful for the majority of people. But the same will tar you down, if you don't know how to behave to people, handle crisis and finally end up as hanging in a noose.

Well, that's the problem with us, most of us have degrees, masters,Ph.D.s etc. But how many of us stay calm when we get a bang? One? Two?None? Great! Isn't it?

You can't blame, govt or present education system for that, its your fault. You have to realize that there is a world beyond this Hi-Wassup-Lol gig and start living it.

Back in those days people go to dance pub and other fests sways, put some groove and enjoy. But now, we go there and take selfies so that we can say to others that "Ya, I've been there. Wasn't it cool?"

This clubbing,partying,hooking, WhatsApping and all those stuffs aren't the world, pack your backpack, jump to boots, get yourself to motion,see some thing,think over it and mostly importantly, avoid being cocooned, then you will realize what life is.

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Time's Magic

I ve witnessed many new years, during those party goers scream loud, take selfies, indulge in polyamory but those things never amused me, rather i felt it as an act of idiots.

But, this new year eve, made my jaw dropped. I was scrolling through my timeline in Facebook, and i saw a post from my friend, who im jealous (and i respect) due to his way of dealing with people, talking things, and awareness about almost anything thats around him.

He was saying something openly, and yes thats nice, opening up. But the matters he shared through the social networking site, really shocked me. That wasn't the guy i knew. The guy i knew wasn't polyamorous,he wasn't heteroflexible, he was a family man, and more than that he wasn't an agonist.

Then, i realised the capability of time to change anything. its the one who changed a single continent to seven, its the one who changed Galndalph The Grey to Gandalph The White, its the one who changed Godse, the traitor to saint. And yes, my friend wasn't an exception.

This time, rather than criticizing my friend or anyone, let me remind you that, all the topics you studied, you researched upon may be good and authentic, that doesn't meant that its correct.

Remember, all the things which we do studies upon and do researches are did by men, and even the best of us aren't so accurate. If were, Mh 370 won't claim to be missing. if we were, the story behind bermuda triangle won't remain unsolved. if we were, there won't be a sub stream named "Error handling" in any of the division.

So, be good to yourself, your families and to the world. Continue your studies and witness the way it contradicts itself after few years.

Till then,
The REZ, Hasta leugo.

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Happy New Year

A December 31st!! yaaaay!! you could scream HAPPY NEW YEAR at the end of the day. Soon my inboxes, timelines will flood with HAPPY NEWYEAR messages. Soon Party people gonna party hard,scream loud and counts down to welcome the new year. Well, All that sounds cool. Cool, aint it?

Before you shook your head in affirmative, i want you to hold back, just give a thought, why are you partying hard ? Are you partying hard because, its once in a year? or is it because the years won't come back?

Do you ever noticed the watch you are wearing? Tag heuer, Tissot, Guess, Bvlgari rather than to flaunt it? do you ever noticed the dial? if you did, then you don't have to read the remaining part of this post, because you already know what im talking about.

Every Second,Every minute,every hour,every day, once its gone, its gone. Oh yes, and you know it. You are the wise people, but still you are flooding others inboxes,get boozed, or get some extra kick, just because this day won't come back? huh, Think yourself, Are you really wise?

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The Present Youth

Disclaimer: What you read below is completely my point of view, the author never meant to hurt anyone’s feeling, if you find this offensive kindly deal with it, and kindly close the webpage

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We were in the class, and as usual we were lazy, and i do presume that lecturer was also at her peak of laziness, and one dirty mind made a suggestion about “pick and speak” session and voila, the session initiated. The good thing i remembered about the session was it padlocked those blithering mouths; who always makes some noise to get some friggin attention.

Many people came to dias, gave their contribution and left, some squealed, some presented nicely while someother answered for the questions that is not asked, being a pre-saved choice, i was chosen as well. i walked with a deja-vu attitude and the topic i got amplified it, as it was “The present youth. 

The topic is really an easy one, being a representative of present youth, none in the class required a research for that speech neither myself. but what i lack was preparation. I still remember what Mr.Dale Carnaghy  said about being unprepared, and just like that it loathed me, as it was even capable of squealing Mr.Lincoln.

As the unpreparation could squeal mr. lincoln, it did the same with me as well. once i get into the dias, my mind got washed, and all the points which i could gather just got vanished as if it is Albus dumbledore. I rumbled, fumbled and began blathering, i still can remember those faces who were looking at me with a wide eye as if i was rocking mandarin or cantonese.

Okay, enough with the pleasantries, what i mentioned above was a comment lines and lets get into main(). Now, tell me what are you? yes, you heard me, What are you? alright, i know, this sounds quiet amusing and when you try to answer it,  you may find yourself struggling to get the answer. So, did you got the answer? are you impressed with it? do you really consider yourself as a part of the brighter world as you claim on?

If you answer No, for all the questions i asked, then, it is time for you to think on. Do you know, why the world remembers M.K gandhi, Bill gates, Steve jobs, and all other prominent figures? what do you think? the world remembers them because the first thing on their daily schedule is posting a photo on Facebook? twitter? instagram? or any of it? No, the world remembers them because they did some thing that made an impact over the world, that changed their surroundings, their life, and the people associated with it. 

Just think about it, how you live your life? you get up from bed, feed yourself, learn for the exams, chat with your friends post some pictures and status, like the craps someone forwards and get back to bed. Just ask yourself is this the way, a future of world should live?

Now, Close your eyes, Think about yourself, is this the way you wanna live for the next years of your life? No? then change yourself.

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Blind Law

Now, what we made here? blind law? yeah, you heard me. in recent days we were witnessing the bravery of the so called rohtak sisters and now we are wakening to the fact that all were hoax. Now, thats the point the whole community have to wake up.

We know and we agree to the fact that girls and women as a respectful gender, should be treated with respect and dignity, and any one who tries to disrespect her in any way should be punished severely as a warning to the rest of the society, yes we know that and we want the same.

What am talking here is not against the women, its against the law and the authorised offices, as they just charge and remand with out even doing a research, and thats the point which makes it even worse. In recent history we just saw many cases in which females accusing men and they just have to do the compromise despite of their uninvolvement to settle the case just to keep their pride, and this is the point which actually is an advantage to most of the squeezers, they just squeal and do some melodrama and blaspheme about you and then, its gone. Your pride, your money, your relations, all gone.

So what i want from media and the authority is to do some research on the comment and then deal with the accused as well as the claimant, so that both do get their justice.  

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